If you want to know how to seduce women then appearing unique should be your primary goal. Sure, everyone is unique in their own way but when it comes to meeting and seducing women there’s a lot of things that every average guy does. This article focuses on the few things that will always help you stand out from the crowd.
Don’t do what everyone else does
One of the most common mistakes that men make is to COMPLIMENT women ALL THE TIME. This may be a good idea if she’s average looking and doesn’t get much attention but OVERDOING it and just doing it with beautiful women will do nothing but place you in the same box with all the other douche bags that compliment her day in and day out.
Even average looking girls will eventually realize that they can do much better if you keep overdoing it.
You need to understand that the only difference between average looking women and gorgeous women is the fact that hot women are very aware of the fact that they are gorgeous. Everyone tells them that and if you approach her with the same “You look beautiful” line you’ll just show her that you are the same as every other guy out there.
If you want to be different, try talking and treating women like equals and act normal because you are talking with normal people. Think about it, treating her like an equal will not only make you unique but it will also ALLOW her to see you as an equal therefore a more adequate mate.
Having a Unique Personality
In order to seduce women you need to have a unique personality. This means you need to demonstrate value and quality personality traits from the gecko. First impressions are key here so an upbeat attitude is always the way to go.
Try to get her talking about herself but in the process make sure you show her that you have a PERSONALITY. This is easily done by simple NOT being so overly impressed about what she says. Don’t argue with her but don’t act all that impress about the fact that she’s a waitress.
You’ll be shocked just how many guys act overly impressed about the simplest things in women’s lives just because they think that will get them laid.
If she asks you for drinks, don’t just buy them on the spot. Make them work for it (ask for a kiss, or something) to simply justify why you have to buy her a drink. Most guys just do it and that instantly shows women just how easily controlled they are.
Women test men when they ask them for drinks. If you instantly buy one, you’ve failed the test. Always be wary if she directly asks you for drinks and don’t offer to get any until you’ve got some sort of chemistry going.
As for your overall personality, make sure you demonstrate that you have goals and values in your life. These are things like NOT taking s**t from anyone, wanting to leave that manager position and open your own business, having many friends etc.
Women don’t fall for money and power they fall for THE INVESTMENT. If you want to know how to seduce women then you need to learn how to sell yourself as a valuable investment. You can be the poorest and most worthless guy in the world but if you can show her that you are a valuable investment that’s what will get you the girl.
Having unique conversational skills
As you probably know, what you say to her and how you say it is what will eventually get her to sleep with you. This means that your conversational skills are absolutely paramount when it comes to seducing a woman.
Every Tom and John uses cheesy and weak pick-up lines like “Hi, *compliment*. Can I buy you a drink?” So if you want to be unique, DON’T resort to such degrading lines and especially DON’T continue the conversation like this:
You: So what’s your name?
You: What do you do for a living?
Her: I’m a French teacher
You: How old are you?
Her: [her age]
You: Where do you live?
Her: What’s with the 21 questions man?
When it comes to holding a decent conversation this is WHAT MOST GUYS DO. These dudes just don’t get the fact that she is NOT a robot that answers random questions.
It’s easy to approach women and to open up a conversation. Here are just some basic examples that will work 10x better than the one above.
Find something unique about her appearance and compliment that.
Example: “Hi, I really like your [item of clothing]” – make sure it’s something fairly unique.
Or you can just ask her a question about herself, her opinion, about the situation or place.
Example: “Hi, do you know where I can get some [whatever] around here?”
Finally use one of the best and most underrated approaches:
“Hi, I’m [name], I [how you saw her] and wanted to come over and talk to you. So, what’s your name?”
Now in order to make yourself unique, the real skill lies in your ability to hold a decent conversation. So, instead of jumping from subject to subject like a machine, try to actually listen to her and ask related question about her answers.
You: So, what do you do for a living?
Her: I’m a French teacher at our local primary-school
You: That’s interesting… I wonder – isn’t it kind of difficult working with kids?
Her: Yeh, it kind of is sometimes but I find it very fulfilling
You: Yes, when I was a kid I did all sort of stupid things to upset my teachers
Her: Haha, I guess we all did that didn’t we?
You: I think you’re right hah! So why French? How did you decide to teach that?
Her: Well I was in France for a few years and I really enjoyed it there
You: Really? I always wanted to go to France but I can barely speak the language. So did you study in France or…
And it goes on and on. What you need to do here is to ask another question that seems to be related to the initial question and she will never get bored. This way she can talk for hours about her life and she will feel that she has someone she can connect with.
If you also add your own “related” experience to what she’s saying that connection will grow even bigger and before you know it she’s naked in your bed.
Know you know how to seduce women by being unique.
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